6.02.2013

"There is Nothing Naive About Your Impulse to Change the World"

This past month I've read dozens of 2013 commencement speeches from thought leaders around the world; however, not one of them sounded like anything too inspiring or new to me.  But then I happened to stumble upon a 2008 Wesleyan University commencement address by then-Senator Barack Obama and it struck a chord.  I thought I'd share this abridged version with you.

Enjoy!

-Katie

"... You are about to enter a world that makes it easy to get caught up in the notion that there are actually two different stories at work in our lives.

The first is the story of our everyday cares and concerns - the responsibilities we have to our jobs and our families - the bustle and busyness of what happens in our lives. And the second is the story of what happens in the life of our country - of what happens in the wider world. It's the story you see when you catch a glimpse of the day's headlines or turn on the news at night - a story of big challenges like war and recession; hunger and climate change; injustice and inequality. It's a story that sometimes can seem separate and distant from our own - a destiny to be shaped by forces beyond our control.

And yet, the history of this nation tells us that it isn't so. It tells us that we are a people whose destiny has never been written for us, but by us - by generations of men and women, young and old, who have always believed that their story and the American story are not separate, but shared. And for more than two centuries, they have served this country in ways that have forever enriched both.

I say this to you as someone who couldn't be standing here if it were not for the service of others, and wouldn't be standing here today if not for the purpose that service gave my own life.

You see, I spent much of my childhood adrift. My father left my mother and me when I was two. When my mother remarried, I lived overseas for a time, but was mostly raised in Hawaii by her and my grandparents from Kansas. My teenage years were filled with more than the usual dose of teenage rebellion, and I'll admit that I didn't always take myself or my studies very seriously. I realize that none of you can probably relate to this, overachievers that you are, but there were many times when I wasn't sure where I was going, or what I was going to do with my life.

But during my first two years of college, perhaps because the values my mother had taught me - values of hard work, honesty, empathy and compassion - finally resurfaced after a long hibernation; or perhaps because of the example of wonderful teachers and lasting friends, I began to notice a world beyond myself. I became active in the movement to oppose the apartheid regime of South Africa. I began following the debates in this country about poverty and health care. So that by the time I graduated from college, I was possessed with this crazy idea - that I was going to work at a grassroots level to bring about change.

I wrote letters to every organization in the country I could think of. And one day, a small group of churches on the South Side of Chicago offered me a job to come work as a community organizer in neighborhoods that had been devastated by the closing of steel mills. My mother and my grandparents, liberal minded though they were, wanted me to go to law school. My friends were applying to jobs on Wall Street. Meanwhile, this organization offered me $12,000 a year plus $2,000 for an old, beat-up car.

And I said yes. I said yes.

I didn’t know a soul in Chicago, and I wasn't sure what this community organizing business was all about. I had always been inspired by stories of the Civil Rights Movement and by JFK's call to service, but when I got to the South Side, there were no marches, there were no soaring speeches. In the shadows of empty factories, there were just a lot of people who were struggling. And at first we didn't get very far.

I still remember one of the very first meetings we put together. The community had been plagued by gang violence, so we tried to mobilize a meeting with community leaders. And I had worked for weeks on this project. We waited and waited for people to show up, and finally, a group of older people walked into the hall. And they sat down. And a little old lady raised her hand and asked, "Is this where the bingo game is?"

It wasn't easy, but eventually, we made progress. Day by day, block by block, we brought the community together, and registered new voters, and we set up after school programs, and fought for new jobs, and helped people live lives with some measure of dignity.

I also began to realize that I wasn't just helping other people. Through service, I found a community that embraced me; citizenship that was meaningful; the direction that I'd been seeking. Through service, I discovered how my own improbable story fit in to the larger story of America.

Now, each of you will have the chance to make your own discovery in the years to come. And I say "chance" because, as President Roth indicated, you won’t have to take it. There's no community service requirement in the outside world; no one's forcing you to care. You can take your diploma, walk off this stage, and chase only after the big house and the nice suits and the other things that our money culture says you should buy. You can choose to narrow your concerns and live life in a way that tries to keep your story separate from America's.

But I hope you don't. Not because you have an obligation to those who are less fortunate, although I believe you do have that obligation. Not because you have a debt to all those who helped you get to where you are today, although I do believe you have that debt to pay.

It's because you have an obligation to yourself. Because our individual salvation depends on collective salvation. Because thinking only about yourself, fulfilling your immediate wants and needs, betrays a poverty of ambition. Because it's only when you hitch your wagon to something larger than yourself that you realize your true potential and discover the role that you'll play in writing the next great chapter in the American story.

There are so many ways to serve and so much that needs to be done at this defining moment in our history. You don't have to be a community organizer or do something crazy like run for President. 
And so, understand that, should you take the path of service, should you choose to take up one of these causes as your own, know that you'll experience the occasional frustrations and the occasional failures. Even your successes will be marked by imperfections and unintended consequences. I guarantee you, there will be times when friends or family urge you to pursue more sensible endeavors with more tangible rewards. And there will be times where you will be tempted to take their advice.

But I hope you'll remember, during those times of doubt and frustration, that there is nothing naïve about your impulse to change the world. Because all it takes is one act of service - one blow against injustice - to send forth what Robert Kennedy called that tiny ripple of hope. That's what changes the world. That one act. An act by you, Class of 2008.

We will face our share of cynics and doubters. But we always have. I can still remember a conversation I had with an older man all those years ago right before I was headed for my new job in Chicago. He said, "Barack, I'll give you a bit of advice. Forget about this community organizing business and do something that's gonna make you some money. You can't change the world, and people won't appreciate you trying. But you've got a nice voice, so you should think about going into television broadcasting. I'm telling you, you have a future there."

Now, I’ve wondered…he might have been right about the TV thing, but he was wrong about everything else. For that old man has not seen what I have seen. He has not seen the faces of ordinary people the first time they clear a vacant lot or build a new playground or force an unresponsive leader to provide services to a community that's been neglected. He has not seen the face of a child brighten because of an inspiring teacher or an inspiring mentor. He has not seen the scores of young people educate their parents on issues like Darfur, or mobilize the conscience of a nation around the challenges of climate change. He has not seen the lines of men and women that wrap around schools and churches, that stretch out block after block after block just so they could make their voices heard, many for the very first time.

Our collective service can shape the destiny of this generation... and generations to come.


-Senator Barack Obama
Commencement address at Wesleyan University, 
Middletown, Connecticut, USA, May 28, 2008



5.20.2013

Workshop Brings Out the Big Guys


As you all know, I recently presented a workshop called, "Your Hidden Potential: Discover Talents You Never Knew You Had." I know it was a success because I'm ready to do it again.  If I'd found myself not enjoying it at all, I would've thought, "Okay.  That was an experiment that will probably not be repeated again in my lifetime."

But I really think workshops are a great venue for me.  I believe I loved every aspect of it, from the creation of the slides to the publicity to the actual event itself.  I loved meeting new people and hearing their insights about talents. I enjoyed sharing all of the research that I've accumulated over the years with receptive ears. And fortunately I had some great participants, many of whom said they found what I had to say very refreshing.

So it's all good, right?

Here We Go Again... Or Not!

Being the perfectionist that I am, as soon as the seminar was over I began mentally checking off the things that weren't exactly how I wanted them to be. But even so, I can happily say that my self-critique remained just that: a critique.  It didn't turn into critical self-sabotage, which is what would've happened many years ago.  I've been working hard (and succeeding much of the time!) at finding that fine line between acknowledging the inevitable flaws that come with a first time anything- in this case it was doing my talents workshop for the public- and appreciating what worked really well. I also found myself hearing and believing the compliments that came from participants, which has not always been a given for me.

Now, in case you too are a perfectionist and feel as if you will never manage your own inner critic, I have some words for you: if I can do it, anyone can. My nasty little inner critic had resided in my brain for so long, I wasn't even charging him rent anymore.  He'd made himself right at home, to the point I didn't even recognize when my thought process centered around his shaming.

But recognition is a powerful weapon. I've learned that when my inner critic is hanging around I begin hearing lots of "should have's," to the tune of, "I should have done it this way... what was I thinking?  How did I miss that when I was preparing??!!"  And then the negative thoughts begin to spiral down to the point that everything I do seems pointless.  

(Not to brag or anything, but my inner critic could argue in front of the Supreme Court- he's THAT good.)

The Big Guys

But as I got better at recognizing my inner critic's antics I've made sure to evict him promptly from my mind, especially before he gets his arguments going. I oust him by immediately replacing his "should have's" with "could's." In other words, instead of going down the path of thinking how I regretfully should have done things differently, I think of how I could take it to the next level and do things even better next time.  Thinking of possibilities and tweaking existing work are my brain's forte, which means I'm bringing out The Big Guys - my driving talents- to tackle my inner critic. They are strong, objective and instantly effective. I've found that Mr. Inner Critic is no match for The Big Guys!

So now that I've tackled my first public workshop I can't wait for my next one.  You can bet it will be BIGGER, BETTER, BOLDER! And I'll be sure to invite you when I set a date.

As for Mr. Inner Critic?  That dude will most certainly not be receiving an invitation.







5.14.2013

Natural Gifts



“In times of stress or pressure, our acquired skills often desert us, and we panic.”
-Margaret E. Broadley
Your Natural Gifts  















5.01.2013

Why I Succumb to the Thumb

Via Flickr

I never sucked my thumb. (I was a paci girl!)

My children never sucked their thumbs (which was lucky for us.)

So why am I now succumbing to the thumb?

As in, the Facebook Thumb?

via Flickr: ksayer1

After much debate, I have a business page on good ole FB. Lest you think me a complete luddite, however, I'll have you know that I've had a personal page for quite a while... but, cough, never used it much cough cough.

And currently, as I write this sentence, my business page says that I launched it "20 hours ago." However, from what I can tell, everyone else's FB business pages say, "launched 20 years ago." Which is questionable, since Mr. Zuckerberg wasn't even alive back then.

(Or maybe he was a toddler.  I've no idea.)

Anyway, here's why, up until a few days ago, I thought Facebook pretty much Zucked:

1) I NEVER wanted to know who ate Tostitos while watching the hockey game last night.

Or who liked the fact that that individual did that and then liked that she liked that ... and where that monumental revelation occurs on someone's timeline.

2) I had concerns about someone "liking" their own status.

Or commenting on their own update.  In my mind, it equates to a person addressing herself in the third person. And I am forced to wonder, is this the new way of communicating offline as well? Will FB permeate regular dialogue?

Perhaps I'll do a little experiment. At my next cocktail party I'll try saying, "It's been nice talking to you, but Katie would now like to go tear into some of those bacon-covered shrimp thingies. And then she'll let you know if she likes them by giving you one thumb up.

3) I wondered how everyone all the way to Venus and back could share everything safely, without some sort of Invasion of the Life Snatchers happening.

Here's a satirical segment I recently saw on The Onion.  The gist of it is this:

Q: When the CIA wanted to legally infiltrate people's every life detail, what did they do?
A: They started Facebook.

(Okay, well, I thought it was kinda funny. A little Zucked up, but funny.)


Via Flickr: ksayer1

Like It!

So why did I decide to switch over and enter this brave new world?

(Like I even have to tell you; everyone but me has known the answer for like, 20 years.)

Because I'm realizing that:

1) I kind of "like" how efficient and revolutionary it is.

Now I can connect with people I love connecting with but don't have the time to offline.

2) It has an incredibly good design.

I'm all about good design that has almost universal appeal.  Because I don't go for trends too much, being a non-conformist by nature, I tend to seek out innovations that are excellent to use, allow for individualistic experiences and are progressively beneficial.

3) I have business needs.

Since the world is on Facebook, I need to be there too.  (I know, I know. Duh!!)



So Please 
(now that you know I'm a convert) 
Won't You, O Won't You, Gimme a Thumbs Up?!!

If you happen to be thumbing through Facebook, which, statistically speaking, you just did less than five minutes ago, be sure to check out my new business page at:

https://www.facebook.com/growcareercoach

And let me know if you "like" it!

P.S. 

Don't get me started on the Twitter Bird. 'Cause I've Zuckumbed to that one too. (Or have I been Dorseyfied?)

4.26.2013

Tasting My Own Medicine

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As I said in my previous post, I have taken the plunge and am giving my first workshop   open to the public called, "Your Hidden Potential: Discover Talents You Never Knew You Had."

I've done other workshops, but not an open one.  And it's a bit scary for me, to tell you the truth. I've performed onstage in front of thousands of people- but always in character.  (The only exception was a cabaret I did for charity, and even though it went smashingly well I was a nervous wreck beforehand!)

But I'm excited.  And I know that I need to venture on to a new stage, excuse the pun. I also know it's time to let everyone know about the talents they don't know about!

(Excuse the plug.)

I will admit that this wasn't my idea.  It was my mentor's idea. When we got together a few months ago we talked yet again about how someday I would do a public workshop.  As in, distant future, when the time was right and I'd know EXACTLY what I would say: 100% crystal clear vision and content.

But that's when he gave me a taste of my own medicine and encouraged me to "just book a date" for a workshop and then commit to doing it.  It didn't matter what the specifics were.  I could figure that out after I'd committed to doing the presentation.

Hmmm.... I raised an eyebrow and scrunched up my nose a bit; I always do that when someone calls me out on something.

That advice did sound familiar... kind of like the suggestions I'd doled out to my clients hundreds of times!  Wasn't I the one always telling people to, "Just go for it!  Take a little step!  You don't have to have every single piece in place before starting the puzzle." (And helloooo?! My very first blog post!)

So how could I argue with my mentor who taught me everything I know about helping people move forward?  And I'm certainly glad he did, once again, push me to move forward. It's why coaches need coaches!

Back to the Medicine Cabinet

Fast forward a couple of months later and I realized I needed yet another dose of my own medicine, since apparently the original dose was wearing off.

This time I was going through a frustrating time business wise (in the form of internet marketing) and said to my husband in despair, "You know, all people seem to want is someone to tweak their resumes or show them how to interview or network.  They don't want someone who can actually help them with what they need FIRST, which is to figure out what exactly they WANT on their resumes or WHO they want to work for or network WITH!!  But, by god, if that's where all the money is, maybe I should just play that game and target the mass market driven by conventional wisdom."

He just looked at me and quietly said, "Have you read your own blog lately?"

Pause.  

(I hate it when he's right. $%@* it!)

"Oh, I know, you're right," I conceded. "And I suppose I should remember the 'create yourself' part."

Then, in order to do some out loud (so I could hear it) affirmation, I said, "I know, deep down, that just because most other career coaches out there (besides my mentor and a handful of others) are banking on the quick fixes a lot of people seek doesn't mean I can't develop an innovative and lucrative coaching business for a niche market.

(And here's where my voice became less timid and more declarative.  It always comes from remembering my great clients who continue to inspire me.)

Besides, the people who choose to work with me tend to be intelligent, thoughtful individuals.  They're intuitive enough to know that the front end of career design- the discovery piece- is just as important as the back end- the interviews, the networking and resumes.  I'm sticking to my mission come hell or high water!"

"There you go," is all he said. And gave me a hug.

(I know, I'm really a lucky lady.)

I felt much better after that.  My medicine tasted surprisingly good.

Workshop, Here I Come!!

Now I'm honestly looking forward to the workshop.  I've come up with a fun program that should be equal parts entertainment and insight. (If you don't think my theatrical background will be shining its way through you'd be mistaken!) Sure, it will be different than most workshops; but then again, Grow Career Coaching marches to its own drummer.

(Like someone else I know, who is going to keep her medicine bottle handy.)

Live in the DC area? Click here for tickets:

http://growcareercoaching.eventbrite.com

4.22.2013

OH FOR THE SANITY OF IT ALL!



When it comes to protecting your day-to-day sanity, look for THE ONE THING you need to do to regroup, feel together, not scattered, accomplished and good about yourself. 

It may not be as involved or as lengthy as you might assume; sometimes it only takes a small task or activity that makes you feel whole again. 

Or at least in one piece. (I know, sometimes your standards have to be low.)

4.21.2013

Come One Come All!!!!


Grow is growing!

I'm doing more workshops now and this one is open to the public!

Here's the description:

Ever wonder whether you are truly reaching your full potential? Or whether you are fully engaging your abilities?

Come to this lively, interactive seminar filled with insight about the hidden talents no one ever told you about. Presented by career coach, speaker and blogger, Katie Rice, this eye-opening workshop will have you rethinking your own potential!

Click here for tickets:

http://growcareercoaching.eventbrite.com

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