3.17.2012

Wait For It, Wait For It aaaaaaaaaand... Let it Go!

Now that the holiday season is several months behind us and I still have plenty of time to get on Santa's nice list for next Christmas, I will admit to the following guilty pleasures: drinking too much eggnog, personal shopping when I should be buying presents, and watching marathon runs of National Lampoon's "Christmas Vacation."   Somehow it never gets old watching Clark Griswold try to install a million twinkling lights on a bland suburban colonial.

I hear people quoting this holiday classic throughout all of December.  I imagine this is mostly to help us all physically and emotionally survive "the most wonderful time of the year" or the "happiest season of all," whichever you prefer.

In my opinion the best quotes are either spoken by Chevy Chase's character, Clark Griswold, or his ridiculous cousin-in-law, Eddie, played by Randy Quaid.  (See below.)

I sooo need a hat like that.


One of my favorite quotes is this one: Ellen (Beverly D'angelo) and Clark discuss Cousin Eddie's lack of a job.  Ellen says to Clark,

"[He]says he's holding out for a management position."  

It gets a laugh, of course, because we all know it's ludicrous for Eddie to even consider himself management material.  Moreover, when you hear a line like that you're reminded of every lazy person out there who uses a lame excuse to not take any work.  You immediately think, "you're holding out for a management position?! Oh, please... just get a job!"

But many people, especially many of my wonderful readers out there, are actually quite competent, smart and ambitious people... the exact opposite of Cousin Eddie.  And these are the same individuals who often don't hold out long enough for the right position.

When job hunting (granted, a not-so-fun-task) people get antsy and accept the first or second offer they receive for scarcely relevant work, even when there's not an immediate financial need.  Or they're reticent to go out on a limb and create their own work, either by combining different job functions into one or inventing their own unique product or service. While these atypical approaches may take time and many small steps, they're most likely to offer a lifetime of achievement and fulfillment.

So, when you are not Cousin Eddie or in dire financial straights, what do you do?

When to Let that Offer Go


It's tricky to figure out when to wait for something better, but here are my top ten clues to NOT take that initial job offer:

1. You know deep down that you won't be able to do the job really really well because the tasks you'll be given mostly utilize your weak spots.  Even when the potential employer is extremely confident in your abilities, you don't want to risk setting yourself up for failure. Furthermore, you may be a competent, smart and ambitious individual, as the employer will recognize, but that doesn't mean you can do anything.  Everyone has limits. And remember that many employers don't truly know what aptitudes make a person good for a particular job.

2. It has no relevance to your interests, career path or vision.

3. You will be working with people that don't hold or respect your core values in the least.

4. You'll be extremely bored and unchallenged.  And you've determined this by ASKING THE POTENTIAL EMPLOYER what exactly you will be doing.  Don't be like me and step in it big time!

5. You can't honestly picture yourself going into this job for more than a few months before becoming very stressed.

6. You imagine yourself dreading Monday morning- and every other day of the week- in this position.

7. You find yourself creating fictitious advantages to taking the position.

8. You cannot verbally articulate how this could lead to something more beneficial.

9. It is completely outside the network that you want to join.

10. The environment is the exact opposite of you: too corporate and rigid, or too unstructured and loosey-goosey.  Or perhaps it's too cold and unfeeling or too heartaches-r-us.

Furthermore, talk to others who know you well, relatives or friends, that truly appreciate what you are capable of, and have truly listened to your desires for the future.  If they give you reason to believe that something else out there aligns better with your strengths, listen to them! They might just be right.

Unless, of course, they're a Cousin Eddie.  Then you might want to let that opinion go.

2.28.2012

Coming Soon!








John Macpherson of the
Foster Harris Inn
I'm excited to say I've had the privilege of interviewing innkeeper/chef/cookbook author/cyclist John Macpherson.  Together with his equally talented wife, Diane, Mr. Macpherson owns the Foster Harris Inn.  This restored turn-of-the-century farmhouse is nestled in the foothills of the Blue Ridge Mountains in the quaint picturesque village of Washington,Virginia.

John is also set to host a new food/lifestyle/cooking show on PBS, "In Season." Talk about living the Grow philosophy of creating oneself!

I will be posting my conversation with this creative spirit in the next few weeks; however, in the meantime, I thought I'd give you a sneak peak! If you'd like to know about this new show the couple is producing, check out snippets of their pilot by watching this clip on YouTube:

 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QxRzOFQHxWg&feature=player_embedded

According to Mr. Macpherson, their show is different than the typical food shows on television, in that it espouses the farm-to-table movement (think Goat Heaven!) while treating audiences to the gorgeous Virginia countryside. The show also doesn't involve unnecessary drama and artifice, which seems to be a staple in food shows these days.  (I confessed to John that I refuse to watch most of those "Reality" food shows that are so popular. Am I crazy for not wanting to watch people get yelled at??)  

But I believe him when he tells me their show is down-to-earth, because there is nothing artificial or ostentatious about John and Diane. Together they have truly created their own amazing experiences in life.

If you are like me and love the concept of a different kind of cooking show on PBS, be sure to go to Kickstarter.com and help the Macphersons realize their dream. As you know, I love to help people realize their goals of living extraordinarily!


2.06.2012

picky picky picky

This is what my cup looks like at Starbucks:

Who knew you could write a doctoral thesis on the side of a Starbucks cup?

Well, you can!

I guess I'm just a picky person.  Which is exactly what you want in a career coach, by the way.  A good coach doesn't let you settle... like bitter coffee grounds at the bottom of your 100% post-consumer recycled cup.

(Why, oh why, must I insert less-than-stellar metaphors?!)

A good career coach doesn't tell you what you should do with your life, nor does she merely tweak your resume, upgrade your interviewing skills, pat you on the back and send you on your way.  While this process is, granted, a quick, easy and relatively cheap method, it's hardly sustainable or even that useful.

And why should creating yourself be easy and quick?  It's your life we're talking about here!

Here's why: If you want to really create your own life, your own work, your own message, you need to spend the time and, if necessary, the money to do it.   It all comes down to the old adage, "you get what you pay for."  And we all have choices in our time and monetary investments.  Even when don't think we think we do.

Take Exhibit A: chilius doggus
 I can stop in for a chili dog from the cafe at Target for less than $2 (presumably.)  I can do this now, pay in cash, eat my frankfurter and be done with it.  Food is in stomach and I can get on with my life.  (Okay, heartburn may ensue, but thankfully I'm at Target and they carry antacids.  Add $3.99.)

From the amazing Inn at Little Washington


Or, I can go to a five-star restaurant that serves nothing but the ultimate in culinary inventions.  However, this will take time- to save up the money to go, to make a reservation well in advance, to get dressed up, to wait while they prepare a sumptuous meal, and to savor each of the six courses... not to mention the amuse-bouche. But it's an experience that will always be with me.  And I will have learned what a master chef can create.

Now make the choice an even meatier one by deciding whether or not to invest in yourself and your future. The Target Cafe version of this choice equates to taking a free online assessment, perhaps even upgrading for $29.99 to do have a live 30 minute chat with a career specialist.  Talk about cheap and easy!  But you've really just wasted 30 minutes and 30 bucks on something that really doesn't do much of anything.  There's no depth, no real discovery.  You may think you haven't really lost that much, which is true, but you haven't gained anything either.  Except maybe increased frustration that it didn't work and a feeling that nothing will!

Be picky, is what I'm saying.  About your life, not just your stomach. Go with the Michelin five-starred restaurant: a career expert who cares about helping you clarify your goals and design the career that will make you soar.

Creating yourself, your work, your life's journey can be an intricate, time-consuming and absolutely exhilarating process. Don't skimp on the good stuff of career coaching- whoever you use.  (Although it should be me... I'm just saying... since I'm so picky and all...)

And Starbucks, I'll be back, for my Decaf, No Whip, Tall, Sugar Free Caramel Macchiotto with Soy.

Talk about an investment!





2.03.2012

My New Baby Girl- Well Worth the Wait


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We welcomed a new family member just in time for Valentine's Day, and what a sweetheart she is!
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What's more, this whole experience has brought me no weight gain, morning sickness, or 9 1/2 months of pregnancy. All the love and joy with no night feedings.

 Who could ask for anything more?!




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Introducing my newest baby girl, Cloey.  Her full name, according to my daughter, is Cloey Margaret Rice.  When in France, she shall be known as Chloe Marguerite.  I don't know when she'll be in France, but one never knows.







And what a lovebug this gal is!!

She is so perfect- great with the little kids, friendly, playful, extremely obedient, loyal, easygoing and absolutely loving.  Awesome, right?

Interestingly, we'd been looking for just the right dog for an entire year.  We spent over two months waiting for our application with GRREAT (a Golden Retriever rescue organization) to be approved (it had gotten lost in the mail.)  Then we had to schedule a home visit, then we had to wait for our final go ahead.  Then, once we had been given the GRREAT stamp of approval, we had to find a dog that was okay for young children, and was of the right temperament for our home and lifestyle.  By the time we went to numerous Adoption Days and visited the website daily for updates on available dogs, almost a year had gone by!

We were getting discouraged.  We were passed over on several occasions because other families were somehow a better fit. My daughter kept getting disappointed that no doggies were crossing our threshold.  "We'll never get a dog!" and "How can I get excited about a dog when I don't know if she'll come home with us?" she'd lament.  The truth is, she had been wanting a dog for the past 2 years prior to this one, so this was  a really long wait for her.  Three years is an eternity for a seven year-old.  It's almost half her life!  I knew when I felt discouraged, she must have felt really down.

But once we found Cloey, we knew it was worth it.

The same goes for careers:  patience can be key.

I don't know how many times I've encouraged clients to hold out for an opportunity that is part of their vision.  And I can't count how many instances they've come back to me and said, "You know, Katie, you were right.  It's good I waited to find the right fit."

















So just when you say to yourself, "I will NEVER find the right career/opportunity/clients," your opportunity is probably just around the corner.

And in case you want to know, Cloey Margaret/ Chloe Marguerite is sleeping at my feet as I write this.

No wait!

She just woke up.  She said she agrees with everything I just said.

Now that's a smart dog.


1.15.2012

REAL COMPLICATED... Life Made Even More Difficult*

*Name has been changed to protect the guilty


I just have to mention something I recently saw on a magazine rack, as it pertains to my last post regarding non resolutions.  If I don't tell you about this I'll just burst I will.

A magazine whose name I shan't mention had a whopper of a January issue. (Note: I always dub this mystery do-it-yourself rag "Real Complicated" because  I'm guessing it would take me two years just to accomplish half of the suggested projects in a single issue.  I've never attempted such a feat, so this is just an estimate.)

Here is how the January cover reads:
"Start Fresh This Year.  

 85 [??!] EXPERT STRATEGIES TO BREAK YOUR BAD HABITS FOR GOOD
REDUCE YOUR DEBT
LOSE WEIGHT FASTER
CLEAR THE CLUTTER
LEARN TO SAY NO
COOK SMARTER
REENERGIZE YOUR STYLE
and
BE HAPPIER NOW"


All in one issue!!  


After reading all that I felt like curling up in a ball in my grocery cart and taking a nap.

You see what I'm saying here?  A bit of a hefty load to carry for us mere mortals, no?

I think I'll stick with my non-resolutions.

It's working for me!


1.02.2012

Some New Year's Non Resolutions


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Happy New Year!!


This year I don't resolve to:

lose weight
get organized
make more money
exercise more
write more
read more
or
spend more time with family and friends

Those resolutions never seem to last anyway...

I do vow to appreciate what I have today:  good health, time with family and friends, financial stability, time to do what I love most:  reading, writing, running, biking, walking my new doggie (more about her to come), and adequate space for everything I need. I may not have an overabundance of these things, but I have what I need right now.  Overly high expectations of myself and others invariably lead to a dead end.

I think, in this new year of 2012, we could all use a bit less self-transformation and a bit more self-appreciation. Let's turn down a notch our unending quests to try harder or be better versions of ourselves. Let's find more contentment with who we are right now and appreciate what we accomplish every day just by authentically being ourselves. Not ideal, airbrushed, romanticized versions of ourselves, but rather the real, imperfect, genuine and good enough ones.

The concept of not trying harder contradicts everything we read and see these days, but I truly believe we accomplish more when we positively focus on what we are versus what we could be. On what we're doing right versus doing wrong. Awareness of our present situation helps us recognize what's working good enough in our lives, and how certain unrealistic ideals can simply be let go. Often this simple, singular approach can work even better than setting numerous goals that not only are vague but also don't account for the way we are wired.

We all know that trying to make changes without articulating why, when and how we are going to do it brings us down more than it brings us results. But what's more, often times change is not what we really need anyway.  Perhaps it's more about shifting our focus to what we do best and seeing that we have most, if not all, the inner resources we need to be satisfied and content. We have windows of opportunity already: we just need to pay attention to them.

Very content horses from my homestate, Indiana.

So here's to focusing on what we're doing right in our lives as opposed to what we're doing wrong. I'll bet a million bucks that the good energy and self-acknowledgement coming from that exercise will bring some powerful results.


Cheers, 2012!


-Katie








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